New Years Note from Author Mary Byers

12 01 2010

Happy New Year! I love January because it offers a fresh start. With memories of the holiday behind us, we can look ahead to the promise of a new year.

And this year does, in fact, hold promise. What’s ahead for you? More of the same? Or is there a hope or dream or goal you’d like to pursue?

When I was 25, I was in a seminar when the facilitator asked, “What’s the one thing you would do if you knew you would not fail?” She asked to write our answers down without censoring them. I wrote, “Write a book.”

It took me over a decade to find the time and figure out how to make that dream come true. But I can tell you, it was worth the wait.

What’s on your heart? What are your hopes for this year? The very best thing about life in this country is that we truly do have the power to write our own story and influence the ending. So what’s holding you back? It’s worth taking the time to honestly answer that question and then to figure out what you can do about it.

What’s the one thing you would do if you knew you would not fail? Don’t censor your answer. Write it down. And make it happen.

All the best,

Mary Byers

www.marybyers.com

www.makingworkathomework.com





Shine, Brave One. But Not On Your Own.

22 12 2009

Sometimes we’re asked to do some very brave things, things that we would never choose to do on our own but because of circumstances we are called to step out of our comfort zone for a greater good.

Have you been in a situation, perhaps recently, where your capacity for coping has been stretched to the max?  We reach a point where we collapse and ask God how we can possibly have the strength to continue.  What is the point of this trial, this suffering?  Why can’t things be easier, why must this time or situation or problem be so extremely difficult?  Whether its troubled teenagers, a hospitalized spouse, financial uncertainty, a strained marriage, or depression -life can be overwhelming.

Ladies, I cannot help thinking of Mary.   She graciously accepted one of the most challenging things ever asked of a woman.  Then again, the peace of God must have rested in her heart as she moved forward with the responsibility of being the mother of God’s son.  Despite the ridicule and shame of being an unwed mother, I imagine that she had a quiet confidence as she carried Jesus in her womb.  With her belly swelling in the passing months, perhaps she had unshakable faith that ,as part of God’s will, everything would be fine in the end.  Personally I would have been rather freaked out knowing that I was responsible for God’s son.  But Mary, I think she was made of firmer stuff, even at such a young age.

The lesson I take away from how Mary responded to God’s request of her, being the mother of Jesus, is that I need to have faith that these brave things we are called to go through are ones we are not meant to face as Lone Rangers.  We are not left alone and abandoned -not by God- when Goliaths or floods or affliction or challenges come.  I know Mary did lots of leaning during her time as a mother, leaning on God’s promises and his character.  She realized that, especially as a parent, she had her responsibility and God had his -and unlike how I often act- she wasn’t going to try to take over God’s job or tell him how he ought to be doing things.  She just trusted.

Mary was brave, not just when she carried the Son of God as an unwed mother, but all through raising him and on through his brutal crucifixion.  Hers was a life of faith.  She was constantly called to be brave, to trust God’s plan, to hold on to his promises when she saw her baby ridiculed, hated and mocked -even tortured.  Her reward?  Seeing her son raised from the dead, resplendent in glory, and receiving the gift of eternal life.

I want to be like Mary.  A woman who shines through adversity, one who trusts and leans on God during heartbreaking and patience-exhausting times.  God knew that Mary could handle this awesome task -but not alone.  He stuck by her even more than she stuck by him.  Can’t you just imagine Mary leaning into God, asking, “How can I do this?”  Wrapping love around her, he tells her to rest.  He’ll give her the strength, he says.

He tells the same thing to each of us.  In this heartbreaking or exhausting time, my dear sisters, you are called to be brave, but -more importantly- you are called to rest and be refilled.  May God shine through you during this time as you release your worries, your need for control, and most importantly  your fear as you let God be God and you his daughter.

Merry Christmas, all of you  Uncommon Women.

With Much Love,

Kelly





Prayer Request -Continually updated

15 12 2009

I just received a phone call from one of our Uncommon Women, Kelly Vidovic, who requested our prayers on behalf of her friend’s daughter.  She was hit in the head with a golf club and suffered a skull fracture, currently at the hospital in critical condition.  We ask that you lift up her precious little life and the hearts of her family members right now.  Please take a moment to pray right now and keep this family in your hearts in the weeks ahead.

Jesus instructed us to lift each other up in prayer; Paul tells us to pray without ceasing.  Let’s do so, ladies.

Thank you,

Kelly

Update as of last night:

Thank you for your prayers for my friend’s niece. I may have said “daughter” in my state.  They have brought her to Dell Children’s Hospital and she is in surgery as we speak. I will keep everyone updated. Her name is Bailey. She has a depressed fracture on the left side of her head and there is an air pocket on the ct scan. Doctor is worried about bringing on infection. She has a bone fragment missing and an open gash that the doctor said they would either have to put a plate in or use a screw to  close.  I am so grateful to have you and such a wonderful network of Christian woman praying for this child and her family.

Update as of this morning:

3:30am update: our Bailey girl is out of surgery! Doc is very optimistic that it is clean & repaired well. If you would like to pray specifically, please pray that she will remain infection free during the next 24hrs, the most critical time. Glen will be staying w/her 24/7 & sis in law will be coming & going. If all goes well Bailey will come home Thurs. Your prayers were heard & are still coveted by our family.





He Is With You

12 12 2009

Shonda Taylor shared this beautiful and inspirational video with me and I just had to put it up for each of you to be touched by.  Mandisa, a stunning woman of God and gifted singer, shares from her heart the rock-solid truth that NO MATTER WHAT is going on in your life, no matter what you are facing, God is with you through all of it.  Her message is real, not sugar-coated, and will speak directly and honestly to your heart.  Thank you, Shonda, for sharing.

He Is With You





Christmas Social: December monthly meeting

6 12 2009

Uncommon Women is about relationships. In this season of love we are making our monthly meeting a time of pure social joy!  Connect with other women, share about yourself and your passions, get inspired by other women’s lives!

Please bring a nibble or beverage to share, as well as your business or calling cards. It’s an excellent idea for any woman to have a card with basic contact info in order to connect quickly and easily with others!  That way you’re never scrounging for a spare piece of paper or receipt to scribble down your phone number or email address on when you make a new friend.  If you have a business and want to offer any specials or have some advertisements to hand out we will have an area for you to display them (though think small, we’ll all share one table.)

This is a time to connect, enjoy the season and unwind.  Come and get filled up, make new friends, and cultivate old relationships!

Meetings are held at my home in Georgetown, TX.  Please email or call for the address.  Thank you!

Kelly Cameron (512) 639-6908

UncommonWomenGroup@gmail.com





Let’s not do that again

4 12 2009

So what happened last night?  As mortified as I was about missing the Girls Night Out I coordinated for Uncommon Women, I am thankful for the lesson yesterday brought me.  Priorities, limitations, boundaries, and taking care of myself and my family -things I have been trying to balance while so many endeavors are taking off, and as I prepare for my little girl arriving at the end of January.  I would like to share from my personal blog what happened last night and what I learned -am learning.

Let’s not do that again, Dec. 4th





Girls Night Out! Thurs. Dec. 3rd: “The Pioneer Woman Cooks”

1 12 2009

Alright, Cowgirls! Tie on a red bandana and join us at Book People in Austin at 7pm this Thursday! We’ll meet up there at 7pm and plan on grabbing a cup of hot cocoa afterward.

Why come?  Besides it being a great excuse for a night out, Ree Drummond, The Pioneer Woman, will have you in stitches and her cookbook will help you (re)claim your title as Queen of the Kitchen!  Check out Ree’s incredible website to get a taste of her hilarious, heartfelt and helpful world.

Have questions or want to coordinate?  Call or email!

UncommonWomenGroup@gmail.com

(512) 639-6908





What’s New, Pussycat?

28 11 2009

First off, Happy Holidays, Gals! “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year” should be just that, so I encourage you to keep what is truly important at the forefront of your thoughts during the hustle and bustle.

I am so excited about what’s happening in our Uncommon world and I would love your feedback and input!

The Uncommon Women Radio Show Pilot: The wheels are in motion as Michael Hagedorn, program director for The My Hometown Radio Show (talk radio 1370AM,) and I are creating the pilot for our two hour weekly morning program to be pitched to Austin’s Christian radio station, The River, by mid-January.  As Michael handles the business side of things, I am writing up the content for the program and have my eyes and ears peeled for great info and fabulous stories to share- which is where YOU come in!  Send me stories, tips, upcoming events, topics you want to hear more about and good news that is of interest to women!  Also, please pray for discernment, direction and financial provision as we move forward with this awesome project.

Teens and Girls Christmas Break Beauty Bootcamp: This is a fabulous Christmas present for your daughters or young friends!  Beauty Bootcamp will be offered over Christmas break in a special condensed version -same hours, less days.  Keep a look out or call for more details about dates and times.   Classes will be offered mainly during the day.  (512) 639-6908

Classes & Workshops: As some of you know, I am expecting a beautiful baby girl Jan. 30th!  As a result of this new bundle of joy, classes and workshops will be temporarily held until March.  But when they start up again, we’re going full steam ahead.  Spring Break will have an excellent assortment of classes for ages 6 and up -from Little Miss Manners, Coed Etiquette for Kids, Beauty Bootcamp, and more. New classes and sessions will be offered several days a week, as well as weekend workshops.  The summer will have even more options, expanding into acting coaching and public speaking workshops.

Uncommon Talent! We are currently working on a fundraiser for Uncommon Women featuring the talented women of Central Texas!  We’ll have a stellar event showcasing YOU (accepting all ages) along with a silent auction filled with amazing products and services donated by local businesses.  The caliber of this show will be truly amazing -you won’t want to miss out on performing or attending!  The event is to raise funds for our monthly meetings, maintenance costs and seasonal events, such as our summer retreat.  Interested in participating or being on the planning committee?  Give me a call or send an email!  (512) 639-6908

I know you have some great ideas to share about content for the radio show, would like to sign you or your daughters up for classes, or want to get involved in other ways with Uncommon Women!  Please shoot me an email or give me a ring -or your people can call my people and we’ll do lunch.

I’m waiting to hear from you, ladies.  Send me your thoughts!

UncommonWomenGroup@gmail.com

(512) 639-6908





Christmas Cards for Soldiers

25 11 2009

A dear friend of mine and former military wife just sent a notice out about a fabulous, easy thing each of us can do this year to bless our service members!

When doing your Christmas cards this year, make sure you send one to the following address:

Holiday Mail For Heroes
PO Box 5456
Capitol Heights, MD 20791-5456

I encourage you to pass this along and plan on sending some love and thanks to our military service members fighting to ensure our freedom.

Many blessings, and thanks Cherie Shirey for this great info!





On Thanksgiving

25 11 2009

Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Dear Friends, during the start of the holiday season I want to speak peace into your hearts.  Take a few deep breaths.  Spend a few short minutes focusing not on your “to do” lists but on what you have to be thankful for.

I have been hearing various messages that all boil down to this: thankfulness leads to contentment and peace.  Meditating on that simple truth, I have experienced a 180 turn around in my attitude when typically I would be more stressed out than a cat in a bath.  It’s sad and fascinating that life is so easily lived with a negative attitude.  In light of that and with the holiday season on top of us, let’s have some girlfriend time -a little heart to heart- focusing on perspective.

As a photographer I learned early on that focus is everything when you’re taking a picture.  If a subject is blurry, the picture is basically trashed.  Do you see the metaphor?  When the “Happiest Time of the Year” rolls around we usually (guilty as charged) get so wrapped up in the food, gifts, party coordinating, card-giving that we loose focus on RELATIONSHIPS, which is what this time of the year is truly all about.  Refocus on the people in your life and the rest -all those details which seem so important- will take their proper place as things that simply accentuate the festive, cheery time of bonding and reconnecting.

The above verse is one I want you to memorize and repeat to yourself at least daily during this season.  Are you joyful?  Not in a false way, “Here’s my plastic ‘Merry Christmas, everything is wonderful’ smile!”  True joy comes from assessing what you have been blessed with and realizing how awesome those blessings are!  I have a loving family, a redeemed life, a relationship with my Savior -therefore, I am joyful!  Are you praying continually?  I/We forget that life doesn’t entirely rest on our shoulders, but we have a God who is waiting to give good gifts to his children.  “Ask, seek, knock,” as Jesus said in Matthew.  Are you giving thanks in all circumstances?  That doesn’t mean you have to be glad crappy things happen -it means you are thankful that God is there to help you through everything that life brings.  We are not alone, even if we have been abandoned by friends and/or family.  God proves over and over that he is the faithful, steady rock we can stand on or cling to in everything, and for THAT we can be ever and always thankful.

Recently I’ve been at my wits end in parenting my tempestuous 2 year old.  He’s 500% boy and 50% of the time he’s a combination of Verruca Salt and Napoleon.  I have definitely struggled with thankfulness for being a stay-at-home mom, but God has been refocusing my perspective and it’s helping!  I have been contemplating re-entering the corporate world and as we’ve been thinking about that potential change I have been treasuring my position as a full-time mama, despite Wilder’s tantrums.  Realizing that I would be gone for such large chunks of the week and miss out on nurturing him, my attitude has changed to one of gratefulness that I am blessed to be with him now 100% of the time.  Though I can still get overwhelmed with what to do with such a strong-willed child, I am glad that we get to work through this period of his precious little life together, instead of on a part-time basis.

The nitty-gritty:

  • Focus on relationships this year
  • Identify and bask in your joy!
  • Pray, girl, pray!
  • Focus on thankfulness -in everything

Peace be yours and many, many blessings to you and your family.  Thanks for sharing this time with me!  Now, go talk to Aunt Margaret and don’t worry so much about the turkey!