When I was in the fourth grade my mother put my sister and I through our first set of etiquette and charm classes. We met with several gals from our Girl Scout troop at the charm instructors home once a week, looked at diagrams on an overhead projector, learned about crossing our legs, picking out event-appropriate outfits, and how to properly walk up and down stairs. Honestly, I hardly remember a thing except that the instructor enjoyed scarves, wore grandma-looking clothes and had a small kitchen table. My nine year old brain was nowhere near desirous to learn the art of good manners, style and charm. Quite frankly, the instructor was used to teaching women and failed to adjust her instruction to the elementary classroom. The mothers were delighted that they were doing something constructive to make little ladies out of us, but I was hardly affected.
Round two. Now that I was entering 7th grade my mom tried again, this time with a different instructor. Here I began to “get it,” sort of…at least I was more interested in learning if I had a “cool” or “warm” skin tone and proper grooming techniques. It was around this time that mom had a Mary Kay gal come over and outfit my sister and I will full skin care and make up kits. THAT was fun and I will always remember that time of pampering; beauty products spread out all over our dining room table and those cute, little pink mirrors. That must be why I love being a Spa Girl with BeautiControl -but back to the charm schools. The instructor had a warmer approach, though I was still uncomfortable and rather petrified of doing something “uncharming” during the class, and the prim and proper instruction did not translate well to life in middle and high school.
In 2002 I signed on to be an instructor with a charm & modeling school and, WOW, was I thrilled to relearn all the stuff I had heard in those previous classes! Finally I was in a place in my life where being charming, well-polished, etc. made sense! After each training class I felt like I had received new epiphanies and couldn’t wait to start teaching the material. Getting to reach out to young women and offer them tools to help them succeed in all areas of life was something I quickly became passionate about, but I ran into a few problems. The curriculum I had to follow barely touched on inner beauty. The girls were told to basically follow these guidelines in how to care physically for and present themselves, but were not instructed in how to beautify their hearts. Let’s face it, you can have a drop-dead gorgeous woman who appears completely ugly because of a negative attitude or shallow personality. The other problem I ran into was that there were no classes for women, just girls and teens. If I was that excited to learn about poise, wardrobe, skin care, public speaking, etc. wouldn’t most women? Just by integrating a few of these things into your life, you raise your confidence, feeling of self-worth, and performance edge by an enormous amount!
When we moved to Texas I decided to start my own classes -classes that covered all the same points as the other etiquette and charm classes, but also integrated inner beauty taught through a Christian perspective. We must accept God’s love before we can love ourselves, and we must love and accept ourselves before we can love and accept others. Love is the basis of inner beauty.
I am dedicated to teaching age-appropriate material in an age-appropriate manner. For goodness sakes, a 9 year old needs to be learning about basic communication principles to help her deal with friend and school issues more than she needs to know how to walk up and down the stairs (though that’s also helpful.) Women need help balancing their lives in order to be more productive and fulfilled, as well as creating more enriching family and relational experiences. I want to address the whole woman and girl, not just provide a list of etiquette rules. If rules of etiquette are what you are looking for, there are plenty of books (which make my neck muscles tie up in knots when I read them -honestly, who can be THAT perfect?)
If you enroll in an Uncommon Women charm or confidence course or workshop you are going to get a very real approach to becoming even more fabulous, because that is what I am passionate about. I have a heart for helping women and girls blossom into the gorgeous women God created them to be!
Our next group of courses start next week; Beauty Bootcamp will be in full swing!
Women’s Beauty Bootcamp: Monday nights, Nov. 2-23, 7-9:30pm (ages 18+)
Teen’s Beauty Bootcamp: Tuesday nights, Nov. 3-24, 7-9:30pm (grades 9-12)
Girl’s Beauty Bootcamp: Wednesday nights, Nov. 4-25, 7-9:30pm (grades 6-8)
Women, I know you want to invest in your daughters but please consider investing in yourselves, too. You are worth it -and the results of this time spent on you will truly last the rest of your life!
Call me, Kelly Cameron, at (512) 639-6908 or email UncommonWomenGroup@gmail.com to register or sign up for upcoming December classes.